1. to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others: to covet another's property.
2. to wish for, esp. eagerly.
Do you want more?
Do you wish you had what he or she has?
Do you want to look like such and such?
Do you want something that does not belong to you?
Do you work to get rich?
Why do you help others, what's in it for you?
Ask yourself the above questions. And honestly answer them. Write them down.
Hi! Lorissa here. I was lucky enough to learn about this subject when I was a young girl in 4th grade. After my first day in my new school, I asked my mom, "What does this mean?", as I held up my middle finger. Mom, "Why?", with a shocked and worried look on her face. I calmly answered, "Because all of the girls were doing it to me at recess today." I obviously soon figured out that I was not wanted in this class. Young girls can be so very mean. I remember crying to my grandmother as she brushed long hair (it was to my belt line). My grandmother would repeat over and over, "They are just jealous. Jealous, jealous, jealous." Both my mom and my grandma explained that I was strong and talented and pretty. And that the girls couldn't be like me. I remember being so confused. I mean, if they wanted to run, jump, throw, do cartwheels, handstands and swing and climb like me, I would be happy to show them. Why are they just so mean? It just didn't make sense to me. They could just ask and we could practice together. As far as being pretty. I didn't see it. But, that I really didn't care about. Not being able to fit in, I came home one day and asked my mom for a pair of Calvin Klein jeans and a name brand shirt. Mom was shocked because I had never asked for anything before. I said, "All the other girls have them." She said, "It doesn't work like that. First, we do not have the money and second, you do not want what others have. You are to be happy with what you have. That is wrong and you should not ever think that way." Then, she took me to Woolworths, had me pick out a pair of generic jeans. She surprised me the next day with the most beautiful jeans that I had ever seen in my young life! They were decorated with stars and hearts. They sparkled and had a special tag in the back that said, "Made with love by mom." The next day at school, the girls asked me where I got my cool jeans. Of course I said, "They were custom made. You cannot get them around here." Did that make me any friends? Nope, just the opposite, But I learned a very valuable lesson, a lifelong lesson.
Coveting is a desire. It is a matter of the heart, an attitude, a matter of strong emotion.
It is an evil attitude, which will likely lead to an evil act. Coveting is a kind of conspiracy in one’s soul to commit evil. The coveting which the Tenth Commandment condemns is the desire to have something that you do not have, or which you do not think he or she has enough of. It is not being content with what you already have, no matter how much that might be.
The coveting which the 10th commandment forbids is one for which we as an individual are responsible. In effect, we are held accountable for discovering the sin, and for dealing with it personally. This is necessary because no other human being can know our thoughts. God thus holds us responsible for what we determine in our hearts and minds.
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor” (Exod. 20:17).
The coveting which the 10th commandment prohibits is a well defined desire. Coveting must be distinguished from lust.
Lust is a general desire.
Greed is a lust for money and possessions.
Coveting is a specific, focused desire, a desire to have a particular thing, which belongs to a particular person. Greed may desire money or material things; coveting desires our neighbor’s car, or his house, or his wife. Coveting is lust well defined and specifically focused.
Coveting is a selfish desire, which is willing to gain at the expense of others. The covetousness which is condemned is that which wants what one’s neighbor has. This kind of covetousness is clearly self-centered.
"Do not wear yourself out to get rich; do not trust your own cleverness. Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle. Do not eat the food of a begrudging host, do not crave his delicacies; for he is the kind of person who is always thinking about the cost. “Eat and drink,” he says to you, but his heart is not with you. You will vomit up the little you have eaten and will have wasted your compliments." (Proverbs. 23:4-8).
There will always be people who want what they don't have and will use others in an attempt to get it. There will always be people who will go about their lives to do what serves them, no matter who they hurt, in order to get rich. As the verse above explains, do not crave his/her delicacies. We must always do our best to be happy with what we have, make our own way, and be careful not to hurt others or cause pain. We must watch our hearts and minds to all coveting, as God sees and knows all. When our minds...
wish we had what he or she has?
want to look like such and such?
want something that does not belong to us?
work to get rich?
help others just to get what's in it for us?
...we, at that point, ask for help. Ask for His love and grace to come into our hearts and minds and keep us pure from this evil.
Steve and Lorissa Belcher
We are a regular couple just trying to make a happy and healthy life together. We pray together, workout together, fish, hunt, camp, go on road trips, talk, cry, laugh, live and love our Pepperdog. We will offer advice here, share our stories, and do what we can to help others. We are not perfect. Only God is perfect, always and forever. We just do the best we can to get by day by day. Life is a journey through good and bad times, disappointments and regrets. To have a best friend in your spouse is the best feeling in the world. It is necessary that we keep this friendship alive and safe everyday. Each day is a new day, to love, to live and to make the decision that you will be on the devil's most wanted list. Chin up, with God, all things are possible.